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Weigh Issues Before 'Coming Out'

Q. I'm a gay man and I've thought about coming out but I know it will affect the way I'm viewed at my office. I'm sure many of my co-workers, and especially the bosses, have negative views of homosexuality. I don't think laws about equality make much difference. What do you advise?

Ans. You have to make that decision but here are some thoughts: Come out if you feel strongly enough about equal rights to face discrimination if it does exist, and to fight it because it's wrong. But if you haven't the conviction or the energy for that--and some people don't, put your head down and keep working. You won't be alone. Attitudes have come a long way, but 51 percent of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender workers still feel the need to hide their sexual identity from co-workers, according to a recent study from the Human Rights Campaign Foundation. It's perfectly ok to do either.


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'Put on a Happy Face'