Ask Dr. Job’s chief contributor, Sandra Pesmen, is a member of the Chicago Journalism Hall of Fame and author of “DR. JOB’s Complete Career Guide.”

Winner of several journalism awards, Pesmen is a graduate of the University of Illinois Media College at Urbana, and is listed in several Who’s Who editions. She also has been Corporate Features Editor of Crain Communications Inc., founding Features Editor of Crain’s Chicago Business and a reporter/features writer for The Chicago Daily News.

For information on partnering with AskDrJob.com, please contact us.

No One Should Be Forced to Move

Q. My wife wants to sell our large home and move into a senior residence but I'm afraid   if the people in my office hear I made such a move they'll think I'm over the hill and expect me to retire. (I'm already concerned that they're starting to think that.). Also, we're both still physically active, and since I work full time and drive myself everywhere I don't think I'll fit in with the people there.  My wife can't wait to stop taking care of this house and cooking. She also wants to join all the activities she saw on our recent visit. How do I convince her we're not ready? She'll have plenty of time to do that after I retire-or die.

Ans. No one should be forced to make a move they aren't excited about. If your wife doesn't want to keep up the big house, you might compromise by finding a smaller home, condominium or apartment in a gated community that provides many of the same amenities. Also, your co-workers don't have to know WHERE you live if you don't tell them. It really is no one else's business.

Tune Out Parents

Reatirement Plan Calms Fears