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Tune Out Parents

Q.3 I've always been good at math but not much else, so I graduated with an education degree and teach math in the same high school that I attended. It's wonderful, and I feel proud of my achievements while I'm at school. But when I get home, all I hear from my parents is praise for my younger brother who's in medical college. I know he's brilliant at all things and a more wonderful person and I don't want to upset my parents by complaining because I have to live here. I can't afford anyplace else. So what do I do? I love all of my family, even that brother.

Ans. You won't be complaining if you sit down with your parents and explain that you're an excellent person who has accomplished a lot and deserve their appreciation and admiration too. They probably are proud of you and don't realize they're heaping praise on only one son in front of the other. If you don't grow angry and out of control, it can be a very helpful discussion. You have to decide if you want to take the risk of making them so angry you'll have to move. But that's unlikely. Most parents are glad when children feel close enough to them to tell the truth.Meanwhile, learn to tune out their criticism.

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