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If There's Too Much Heat in the Kitchen--Leave

Q. My boss inherited a fortune from her father and opened a very successful marketing company, gaining his business contacts as clients. She has developed a strong following and the company does excellent work because the staff, now consisting of 30 women, are dedicated, experienced and well paid. The problem is that there is constant bickering, competition and general squabbling in this office. Our boss always complains to anyone that will listen , "All I do all day is put out fires in this office." The problem is that she's the one who starts them by pitting each one of us against all the others. How do we put an end to this and get some peace and quiet and cooperation here? I don't think I can take much more of the stress.

Ans. Then you should begin to take the excellent experience you gained from this well-respected company somewhere else where there is peace and quiet. You cannot change the boss. She has the power, the money, and the pleasure of "putting out fires all day." Since she obviously takes satisfaction from that, and the company is successful in spite of the turmoil, there's no reason for her to consider changing. You'll have to improve your own life by finding a more tranquil milieu.

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