Q. All summer my college graduate daughter sat at her computer in her room sending resumes by email to classified ads she found online that she thought matched her new bachelors degree in early childhood education. She had no responses. Her college counselors had told her that was the way to find a job. I thought it was time to intervene, so I went online for a week, searching for new ads that matched her skills. When I found two, I told her to get up, get dressed and run over there to hand in her resume with a cover letter to the person in charge of hiring. She did that, after telling me I didn't know how it's done nowadays. She eventually got both part-time jobs that provide an excellent full-day starting career. She works at one daycare center teaching and doing administration work from 9 a.m. to 1:30 p.m. and later, in an after-school care program at another site from 3 to 6:30 p.m. Maybe more "old fashioned parents" should butt in.
Ans. Congratulations for stepping in at the right time in the right way. It's true that parents are not supposed to "hover" and are supposed to encourage independence. But since you had experience job-hunting and your daughter did not, it was appropriate for you to teach skills you have and she hadn't yet learned. Good move.