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Seeking the Right Career for YOU

Q. I've been at this job almost 20 years and even though I do it very well, I still don't feel it's my real calling. I drag my feet when I have to get up and go to the office. I watch the clock. I look forward to weekends when I can do the things that really give me a thrill. I don't have children and my wife works full time so I'm wondering if it's fair for me to quit this job and start searching for something more fulfilling. I have a feeling my wife won't think so and I wonder how I can convince her I should.

Ans. If you wife is as unfulfilled by her work too she may be more understanding than you think. Why not make a deal with her that IS fair? Suggest you take two years to find the right work, and then she take two years to re-establish her career. But if she loves her current job there's no need for that, and she should agree.  Valerie Hausladen writes in "Professional Destiny: Discover the Career You Were Born for" (www.professionaldestiny.com $14.95) that when searching for the right career ask yourself:" Why am I here? What am I meant to do? What am I good at, What interests me and how can I apply these interests to all aspects of my life."  Those are places to start.

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