Q.Our daughter went to a private college last year because her grades were so low no one else would accept her. We knew she wasn't a good student, but hoped that she would finally buckle down. She didn't. She spent her time "partying" and chasing boys and went on probation after one semester, then flunked out at the end of the year. I believe she should move back home and go to work and if she changes her ways, perhaps try school again later. My wife wants to immediately enroll her in a local private (read: expensive again) college so she won't have to tell her friends what really happened. Who's right?
Ans. Now that you've written it down and can read the problem, surely you see that you are. The girl already had her "second chance" when you sent her to a private school because she failed to achieve in high school. She failed that second chance too and doesn't deserve yet another to prove she's lazy. You're right in arguing it's time she goes out and gets any kind of work, as a waitress or selling retail, so she has spending money. She always can return to school some time later at a less expensive community college. They also offer non-academic programs that provide certificates for trades. She may be more suited to that.