Q. I feel my weight problem is really holding my career back. Regardless of the laws, and how corporations protest, there is discrimination against fat women. I can't seem to get higher than mid-management, and I can't lose the 50 pounds needed to get me into the running. Any suggestions on ways to actually lose weight permanently?
Ans. It's certainly not addressed in most job columns, but you are right. It is a silent discrimination, but it does exist in some places. And although it's a very difficult assignment, you probably will do better if you lose weight. For help, you may want to work with a professional weight loss counselor since they often have insights you didn't address before. One is "Urge Surfing." When you wake in the middle of the night, and go to the kitchen to find something to eat in secret, don't "surf" from cupboards to frig to pantry. Instead, sit down at your computer and write an essay for at least ten minutes about how hungry you really are, why you have to sneak something to eat, and what, if anything, would be a "legal" snack that won't make you hate yourself in the morning. These professionals often offer many suggestions and talking with one may be the one new solution that will work best route for you. Then, hopefully, promotions will follow.