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Teach Friend 'Office Separation'

Q..I actually helped my friend get her job in our office and everyone knows we had a personal relationship. But now I find she includes me in all the things she does, and sometimes they are things I really don't want to do. How do I separate myself from her at work, and remain a personal friend outside the office?
Ans. There's nothing like speaking frankly to everyone. Tell her you can't participate in all her work activities, but you still want to be her friend at home. Make that clear to everyone around you too, there's a difference between an accomplice and a friend in the office. In Be Your Own Best Publicist, authors Jessica Kleiman and Meryl Weinsaft Cooper make the point that friends help you meet your goals, while accomplices will distract you from your efforts.

 

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