Q. This is my first job out of college and I have a very difficult boss who always says I do everything wrong and has really stamped on my self-esteem. It's not a gratifying job and it doesn't pay much, but at least I have a place to go to every day and I get some healthcare. The biggest problem is I'm beginning to believe I'm not good at this job or anything else. So how do I get my self-confidence back?
Ans. Often your life's greatest foe is yourself, says J. H. Hyun, author of Outswimming The Sharks: Overcoming Adversities, Naysayers, and other obstacles to Lead to a Meaningful Life. He also believes there are no other formidable opponents. So you're going to have to change your own attitude, realize your boss IS a difficult person and you ARE ok. One way to do that is to talk with people you know who admire you, such as former teachers, friends, family members, your clergymen, neighbors, former bosses. Surely some of those think very well of you and will tell you so. Then you're biggest job is to start believing what they believe about you. Your next job is to start looking for another job. Anything will be better than taking daily verbal abuse.