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Don't be 'apple polisher'

Q.1 I've been in this job a little over a year and I know the boss likes me. I come in early and stay late to have private time with her, and I think it'll help me get a promotion. I can tell my co-workers don't like it-or me. I'm never invited to their after-work gatherings, or to lunch. I don't care, because I'm more interested in my career than in making friends. Am I wrong that  "apple polishing "  the boss is a good way to get ahead? 

Ans. Some say so. It's generally understood if you have great "pleasing skills" it will work to your advantage, particularly if you don't care about being ostracized by the rest of the office. Truth be told, though, ostracizing in an office is similar to bullying in the schoolyard. Since you have an "in" with the boss, it might be better to help him create an atmosphere of friendship and trust between everyone in the office, not just you. But if you're not that generous, and no one can blame you if you're not, take advantage of your advantage. It definitely will help you career. But remember, you'll have to make friends elsewhere.

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