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Beware 'Close Friend' in Office

Q I've met a wonderful man at my office. We have become very close friends, although both of us are married to other people. We spend breaks and lunch hours together because we enjoy talking about work, and incidents and people at the office. There's nothing more to it, but I'm getting worried that he, or someone else at work, might think there's something more to it than office friendship. We've both told our spouses about the other person and they approve because they both have friends at work too. Am I over-reacting to social pressures that don't even exist?

Ans. Don't play with a fire that may ignite when you least expect it. You're wise to be aware of what others may think is an inappropriate friendship. Whenever that suspicion arises, it's best to stay above board and limit the "twosomes." Surely there is at least one other person in the company that you can include in these meetings. Invite him or her to join you. Also arrange after-hours dates with both your spouses. If you're so taken with each other, your mates probably will enjoy their company too.

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