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It's ok to say you hate being jobless

Q.  I've been out of work six months and I have to keep going out and meeting with people I know as well as relatives and asking if they know of anyone who might hire me. It's so discouraging, especially when they make jokes about my not having to get up and go to work the way they do. I hate that. How do I answer when they say things like, "Boy, you're lucky, I hate my job!"

Ans. That one's easy.  You can say, "I don't think I'd hate your job as much as I hate not having any job." But in general, we have to learn to rise above nasty or smart aleck cracks about almost everything. People who are thoughtlessly unkind usually start doing and saying mean things in childhood and keep it up if no one helps them get over it. Look back to the kid who pulled wings off flies, and dropped them into a pile of sugar to watch them squirm. He or she probably makes nasty sarcastic remarks today to cut down others. Psychiatrists tell us that's a standard defense mechanism, since "the best defense is a good offense."  Don't engage. Walk away. Find someone with a kinder heart and, hopefully, some worthwhile business connections to share your story with.

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