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Join In--Never Snub Office Mates

Q.  Every summer our boss directs his administrative assistant to hold an "office staff lunch" at a local Italian restaurant while he's off on his yacht with his wife on their five-week vacation. I am not particularly friendly with his assistant or her close staff, although I have one or two other friends who work here, including maintenance people. If the boss was going I know I'd have to appear. But I think this shows he doesn't care about being with the "lowly staff," and is doing this only to pretend he promotes and cares about office harmony. I also eat only a small salad at lunch because I watch my weight. Do I have to go?

Ans. Of course you do. Also, most Italian restaurants offer lovely small salads. Never do something as obvious as "snubbing" any one in your office, from the top down. If you would go to lunch with the boss, you also should be ready to dine with the rest of the staff and the maintenance crew, (who probably are much nicer people than he is and more fun.).

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