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DON'T FIGHT FEELINGS-USE THEM!

(Q.2) I FELT SURE I WAS GOING TO BE PROMOTED but someone else got that job and I'm angry, humiliated and don't know what to do. Should I leave or tell the boss how I feel-or is it too late for that? I feel as though I was treated badly after many years of loyalty and great work for this company.

(A) STOP. DON'T WASTE FEELINGS--use them!  You can turn emotions into achievable actions. Sander A. Flaum, career coach, motivational instructor and CEO if Flaum Navigators consultants, says if you get passed over, go to your manager (and remember this is an audition.) With respect, ask what the qualifications were you didn't meet. Make your case for why you feel you should have received it and see if there are courses you can take to be better positioned for promotion in the near future. Ask for an evaluation of your work and if the manager sees you in a different new position and when that can happen. That should give you a clear picture of what your future holds  and if you should stay or move.

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