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NEW FAMILY RULES FOR KIDS' SPORTS

(Q. 3) OUR FAMILY IS SO HEAVILY INTO KIDS' SPORTS it's affecting my job and my husband's. We spend all free time (and some  work time) doing some aspect of it. We're either going to see a game, driving out of town with our kids and team members, planning treats, car-pools and meetings, or working on what kind of new equipment and uniforms we have to buy. And the cost is another problem. What can we do to limit this to a more normal situation?. I can't think of any generation that had this much involvement in kids'sports.

(A) OH, SEVERAL GENERATIONS HAVE HAD THIS involvement, but it does get worse each decade. A new survey of 400 sports moms, commissioned by 19 Sports, a youth sports league franchise, agrees with you. It shows it's necessary to make changes that will put less pressure on parents-and create more fun for kids. Brian Sanders, 19 Sports president and COO, said 65 percent of moms said their children's sports interfere with their jobs and 43 percent said they're less productive at work because of their commitment to their children's sports. Sanders offers 19 Sports rules as a goal for change: One day per week commitment; convenient location locally; no mandatory volunteering or fundraising and focusing on fun. Now, it's up to you and the other moms to enforce those rules.

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