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Q.2. I WANT TO TAKE TIME OFF TO VISIT a close cousin in another city who just lost her husband. Our company has a policy of only giving paid time off when it's an immediate family member. Do I tell the truth and get docked for the day off, or do I say it's my grandmother, who fits in that cataegory . My grandmother already is dead and I don't think anyone will find out.

(A) SHAME ON YOU. That's not a nice thing to do to your grandmother's memory and a lie is never worth the bother of keeping it secret. Own up to what you plan to do and feel good about doing a good thing for your cousin in an upright, honest way.

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