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When At Work--You WORK!

(Q.4) I AM IN A NEW PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP that has become very demanding and time consuming, since we text and email all day. I try and do so unnoticed while at my desk, and quickly change the screen if anyone walks by but I don't like "sneaking" and feel others notice something is going on. On the other hand, everyone is in a relationship and makes contact all day. Isn't that just the way society works now with the Internet and cell phones?

(A) YOU'RE RIGHT THAT'S THE WAY SOCIETY WORKS with everyone everywhere talking, testing or emailing through the day. But that doesn't mean it's the right thing to do or that you should be doing it. Your boss gives you an hour's pay for each hour of work and that's what you're supposed to be doing-not contacting your lover. Make those connections before work, on breaks, during lunch, and after you walk out the door. Come on, you know what's right and what's wrong. You are "stealing" time from your company.

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